From a commentor on Ask Dr. Helen’s blog: Never, ever get married without a pre-nup. I know it sounds harsh and unfair, especially when you’re supposed to be entering marriage for life and all.
But look at it this way; if she isn’t ok with it, then you’re finding something out that is very important, right? Remember, current law will take away the lion’s share of everything you ever did and will do.
Ah… here we are back at our most gritty subject… the gender wars… or Should men get married? And my current take on the “pre-nup” is much more positive than in former times. I formerly was of the opinion that a pre-nup was simply saying “we are planning on failing in this marriage and when we do here is how we will split things up… or not.”
After sensing the current feel of our culture and the inability of young men and women to commit to anything or anyone… I think it is prudent and reasonable. In the current climate of men and women distrusting each other in general… it would only seem wise to take the precaution that if your judgement is less than excellent in picking a husband/wife… (and think on it… what practice do we have… we are only supposed to do this once…) then at least we can have a fair and equatable sharing of the proceeds from that marriage. That would suppose that it would not include those holdings each had before marriage… but those acquired during the marriage. This would seem only fair in light of the fact that people are getting married at a later and later time in their lives and have already separately acquired some holdings on their own.
Think on it this way… you stay married… you get to share in it all! You split up… you share only in what is fair and reasonable for the time that you were married.
Does this sound like “true love” or “soulmate” and “happily ever after?” Not so much… but at the same time it does not sound angry and hateful.
What is your own opinion?
